At this time of year, it can easily feel that everyone else is more organised, more festive, and more relaxed than you. Or maybe, it’s just me that feels that way. Either way, as I sit here, less than four days before the big day itself, I’m wondering where all the time has gone? I’ve got a list as long as my arm of all the things I haven’t done. That list includes some of the ‘big’ things: the Christmas food shop (although, it shouldn’t be too bad as we’re not hosting on Christmas Day itself, only Boxing Day), a few more presents to tick off, a trip to the Post Office to send parcels as well as pick them up… but there are lots of things I just haven’t done this year.
I try and make my online presence as fully rounded as possible. I don’t want to only share our ‘best bits’ because I think that does a disservice to the reality of parenting. That said, it’s often difficult to capture everything, and I sometimes worry if I’m not getting the balance quite right. It’s easier to write about things we have done, rather than those we haven’t, so in the interest of being reassuringly honest, and in the hopes of putting some regrets behind me, here’s what I haven’t done this Christmas.
Christmas Eve Box
I am genuinely gutted about this. I love the idea of putting together a Christmas Eve box to ensure we spend some quality time as a family, snuggling together in some fresh pyjamas, watching a film together and enjoying some festive snacks. I went so far as getting a lovely new blanket from Room to Grow, and even bought a crate from Hobbycraft that I was hoping LPD would work his magic on. He’s a fantastic artist, and I know he’d do an amazing job at decorating it for us – something unique and personal.
It’s technically not too late to still do this… and in fact, today I ventured out and bought us each a set of new pyjamas. I’m not buying a new film to watch because I always watch Santa Claus, the Movie (you know, the one with Dudley Moore and John Lithgow) on Christmas Eve. It’s kind of our tradition. We decanted all our DVDs into a big case rather than individual boxes so we don’t have a case to put it in, so I may have to get my craft on and decorate an old case festively so that I can safely put the DVD in our box.
Elf on the Shelf
I’ll be honest, I’m not particularly sad about missing this Christmas activity (especially after a certain budget shop has really inappropriately used theirs in their Christmas marketing…). I imagine it’s fun for the first couple of nights but after that, becomes a bit of a drain. And I know I’d forget on more than one occasion. Pickle isn’t old enough to get it anyway so this was definitely one of those things that was easy to shelf (ha ha, no pun intended).
Special Christmas Day Outfits
Does anyone else feel the pressure to look ‘nice’ on Christmas Day? I imagined myself in some kind of lovely Christmassy ensemble. I felt the same last year and bought, quite frankly, a terrible choice of jumper from Everything5Pounds.com, which after asking my brothers to take a family portrait of us in front of the Christmas tree resulted in me moaning for about an hour about how much like a whale I looked.
I mean, have you ever seen a more hideous and unflattering outfit? Granted, the angle isn’t particularly flattering (it’s never a good sign when your photographer stays seated on the sofa whilst you stand up), and there’s something about how I stand when holding Pickle which makes me stick my stomach out, but it was such a disappointment. I feel like I ruined our first family Christmas photo. It’s all I can see when I look at this photo – and that’s so sad.
So this year, I haven’t got anything ‘special’ to wear. I’m not bigging up an outfit idea in my head only to be colossally disappointed. I’ll throw on whatever is clean Christmas morning and that’ll do. Dear God, it can’t be worse than last year, surely.
Christmas Cake
I’ve got a real thing for Christmas Cake this year. I’ve been craving it with every cup of tea I’ve drank, and I really wish I’d made one. It’s something that is going on my to-do list for next Christmas. I may even make two – one to eat throughout December, and one to save for Christmas Day itself. The lovely Sophie from Wife Mother Life uses a Delia Smith recipe, and it sounds delicious so I may have to bookmark her post. I may end up getting a bit carried away with the decoration though.
There’s Always Next Year…
I’ve written but not given out all my Christmas cards (again), I’ve missed the last post for cards to be sent to some of the lovely companies I’ve worked with this year, and the house isn’t sparkling clean. But in the wise words of my friend Lisa, there’s always next year. And I’m not going to stress too much about anything because really… who cares? Pickle is none the wiser, and he’ll have a great day just playing with wrapping paper and eating a chocolate button or two.
It’s being with family that’s the most important, isn’t it? And I thank my lucky stars that I have all of mine in one place to sit around and share lunch with this year. The rest is just detail.
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Sophie - wife|mother|life
Aw thank you so much for including me in your post lovely! I’ve had years to perfect my vaguely OCD Christmas organisation haha. Just relax now and enjoy it xx
Ana De- Jesus
Don’t worry lovely I am no way near organised either! I like the idea of a Christmas Eve box too but maybe next year for both of us x
Laura
Christmas Eve box is the only one I’ve done too! A needed new pyjamas anyway, and then I saw some lovely ones in my size at half price so thought why not.
Then I’ve just bunged in some hot choc sachets and marshmallows that we already had lying around, plus a sticker book, and a Bing magazine activity pack. Hopefully that will give us chance for some downtime on Christmas Eve afternoon! We just used a shoebox!
You don’t need to necessarily decorate the crate this year if you don’t have time. Just line it with some tissue paper and bung a ribbon round it. Then you’ve got all year to get it decorated ready for next Christmas!
I hate Elf on a Shelf so refuse to enter into it, so I’m with you on that one.
I would love to just spend Christmas Day in comfy joggers (or even my pjs!) but we’re visiting rellies who always dress up, so I ought to make *some* effort. You look fine in that photo btw! Don’t know what you’re complaining about!
We never do Christmas cake as I don’t like it, but I planned to do homemade chocolates and cookies to give to friends, but utterly failed on that front too!
Totally agree with you that small kids won’t notice or even know what the day is “meant to” be like yet.
If we set the standard too high this early on, we won’t be able to maintain it!! Haha!
Kara
I have not written christmas cards and have even failed miserably at present buying this year – hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a very happy new year
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I’m tempted by the idea of Elf on a Shelf and the Christmas Eve box but it has just been too hectic to worry about it this year! Have a great Christmas!
Stephanie
We all know it comes around so why do we leave stuff to last minute!!! My Christmas list got huge for things to get done and left it all last minute!!! Hope you had a lovely Christmas
Becca Talbot
I have to confess, I’m usually pretty organised when it comes to Christmas – I buy my presents for my family throughout the year, whenever I see something that I know they would like or might need. This definitely helps spread the cost, so I don’t have to worry about December’s payslip being stretched. I hope you and the family had a lovely Christmas, and not long until the next one hehe 😉 x